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Survivor Spotlight: Karla’s Story
Karla fled from out-of-state with her five children. She had no family or close friends in
Rhode Island. She applied at the Department of Human Services for “everything” available and requested a Child Support Waiver and Work Waiver while locating resources and services in the community. Karla and her children were able to go into the Women’s Resource Center’s shelter, providing a safe haven from the chaos that was their lives.
Within the work waiver period, the Family Violence Option Advocacy Program (FVOAP) staff assisted Karla; the children were registered and started to attend school, and Karla took the TABE test and enrolled in CNA classes. Because she was doing so well securing independence, Karla requested the closing of her Work Waiver one month earlier than the reassessment date. She felt that she finally was on the path to get back on her feet, take control over her circumstances, and overcome what she and her family had endured while living with her abuser.
The FVOAP remained constant in the family’s lives while Karla moved forward and worked toward her goals.
Survivor Spotlight: Tiffany’s Story
Tiffany arrived early in the morning at the Department of Human Services (DHS), after driving for more than a day with her children in the car, because she was told it was her only option to get into a safe home/shelter after fleeing her abuser.
Tiffany and her family had reached the end of their stay at a 30-day shelter. Her abuser had located her several times over the past months, and the police were unsure what to do to keep her safe. She was told by a Detective and Domestic Violence Advocate that they had run out options; her advocates recommended they leave the state.
Tiffany was scared – she had run away before, and the abuser had found her. What would she do if he found her and her children again? So, she drove until she couldn’t drive anymore and found herself sitting at the Providence DHS office.
Tiffany, overwhelmed by the long drive and her situation, sat crying with the advocate for more than six hours trying to find a shelter with beds for her and her children. The DHS called Vermont, Maine, New Hampshire, Massachusetts, Connecticut, New York, and New Jersey to no avail. The family was tired, hungry, and felt hopeless. The advocate ordered pizza for the children and continued to make calls; something had to help this family.
Running out of options, the advocate decided to contact the Women’s Resource Center’s (WRC) Executive Director for help. By the end of the day, Tiffany was on her way to a safe place for her and her children. Thanks to WRC, she found herself in more permanent housing within days.
Tiffany and her children are finally stable. They have beds, clean clothes, are enrolled in school, and have a safe place to live. And, most importantly, they are finally far away from abuse and fear.
Survivor Spotlight: Mrs.P’s Story
The Family Violence Option Advocacy Program (FVOAP) specifically serves victims and survivors of domestic violence throughout the State of Rhode Island. As FVOAP advocates, we assess the client’s situation closely and provide Work and Child Support Waivers within the Department Of Human Services. The goal of our program is to assist our clients in preventing recurring violence from the dangerous party, as well as keeping an open communication if community programs or services are needed and meet with the client as needed throughout the year.Ms. P was referred to the program because she was in need of a Work Waiver. Ms. P finally filed for divorce after fifteen years, in which she endured emotional, financial, verbal and sexual abuse, isolation, and withheld medical care. By receiving the Work Waiver, she was able to collect cash assistance benefits and to obtain mental health counseling, find housing, apply for health insurance, and secure an attorney for the divorce.
At the time of the first assessment, Ms. P and her four-year-old daughter were staying in a safe home. They were placed in a domestic violence shelter the very first day Ms. P went to the Family Court to file for divorce, due to the severity of her situation. Ms. P also reported feeling hopeless and very afraid of ending up back with her abuser, because she was feeling guilty for her daughter having to go through such tough times at her young age.
It was hard for a very intelligent and well-educated woman with a college degree to acknowledge how the domestic abuse she endured for fifteen years had severely impacted her ability to function. Ms. P was grappling with sleeping problems, anxiety, and depression, but she also acknowledged that the first and hardest step had been taken: leaving her abuser. The plan from there was to attend the weekly support group session at the safe home, start individual counseling, and to obtain health insurance to be able to continue with psychiatric treatment. These services were all provided free-of-charge by the Women’s Resource Center.
In our last meeting with Ms. P, she stated she is temporarily staying at a friend’s house after having spent two months at the safe home. The approval of the medical assistance allowed her to consistently attend to counseling appointments and to receive the psychiatric treatment she needed. She states that her self-esteem and feeling of independence has grown tremendously and she feels stronger and more confident in herself.
In addition, Ms. P managed to secure a part-time job as she continues to take care of her mental health. Having been in counseling, Ms. P feels that it was an essential part of her journey forward. She is determined to become independent. She is saving as much as she can to pay back her friend, who is financially assisting her with her divorce expenses, and to be able to move out to her own place – another goal.
Domestic Violence Demands Gun Control Legislation
Last month, Governor Raimondo signed legislation to keep guns away from domestic abusers. As Rep. Teresa Tanzi stated, “At last, victims of domestic abuse in Rhode Island will not have the constant fear of knowing that the person who abused them still has a gun.”
As if the abuse itself is not enough to cause constant, paralyzing fear, adding guns to the mix is like adding fuel onto a fire. Abused women are five times more likely to be killed by their abuser if the abuser owns a firearm. It’s a simple fact that guns in the hands of any person with a history of violence can only lead to tragedy.
Case in point is the recent Texas church massacre. The gunman was convicted and jailed for assaulting his wife repeatedly and beating his infant stepson until he suffered a fractured skull. He spent time in a mental institution, was booted from the military for bad conduct, stalked and harassed ex-girlfriends and was sentenced for animal cruelty for beating a puppy. His long resume of violence dates back to middle school.
Despite all of these warning signs and a well-documented dark past for such a young person, he was able to amass a gun collection that he used to kill dozens of innocent souls – including those of a pregnant woman, her unborn child and numerous children. If you knew what you now know about this shooter, would you have in good conscience had any part in selling him a gun? If he could beat up a puppy and an infant with his bare hands, what would he have done with a gun in his possession? Unfortunately, we – and the 26 dead, the numerous injured, their families and our grieving nation – know the answer.
It’s time we stop putting guns into the hands of those who cannot handle themselves. Support gun legislation to stop the violence and protect innocent lives, before it happens again.
By Lori N. DiPersio, Executive Director
Women’s Resource Center serving Newport and Bristol Counties
Charlottesville: Acknowledging the Root Causes of Violence
The Women’s Resource Center (WRC) extends its sympathy and prayers to the family and friends of Heather Heyer and other victims recovering from the emotional and physical trauma of the recent Charlottesville, Virginia violence.
We condemn the racist, anti-Semitic and unjust actions of white supremacists whose evil is rooted in power, privilege, and control over others.
Our agency is focused on the prevention of domestic violence which typically occurs behind closed doors in the home. It, too, is rooted in power, privilege, and control over others. But, violence is violence. And violence begets violence. It’s a social injustice that simply needs to end.
The first step is to acknowledge and examine the root cause of the violence. As a nation and as individuals, we cannot pretend that prejudice and intolerance does not exist. We need to look inside ourselves and within our communities, and fully commit to having potentially difficult conversations about racism, sexism, gender or religious bias, hatred, bigotry, and rage. We need to challenge all forms of oppression.
For the past decade, the Women’s Resource Center has considered anti-oppression principles to be integral to ending domestic violence. Judgmental thinking and misunderstanding can cause pain and humiliation and propagate oppressive behaviors. At the root of peaceful existence for all life on Earth is respect for all people.
Our hearts are with those who speak out against injustice. We are inspired by the people all over the country who are standing up to and speaking out against the white nationalism and violent acts that occurred in Virginia. As a proud member of the national “Move to End Violence” against girls and women in the United States, the WRC is committed to making the work of eradicating racism a priority in our community. Envisioning a future free from violence starts within each of us acting as agents for such change, leading the way to a better world.
Lori N. DiPersio
Executive Director, Women’s Resource Center
SPOTLIGHT ON Sharon King
The Family Violence Options Advocacy program (FVOAP) assists the state Department of Human Services (DHS) clients who are victims/survivors of domestic violence. Sharon King is FVOAP director at the Women’s Resource Center, a position she has held for four years.
A social worker for 27 years, Sharon is in charge of a four-person team of advocates who work with DHS to help domestic victims in Newport and Bristol County and in other parts of Rhode Island to obtain services. The FVOAP coordinates resources through the DHS and other agencies and programs to help clients obtain protection, legal services, housing assistance, counseling and other basic needs.
Sharon and her team also work closely with the Rhode Island Coalition Against Domestic Violence to make sure the process goes smoothly. While she is the administrator, she also maintains a client caseload of 30 families, while the team has 50 to 70 families.
“What I like best about the job is working with families. That’s the best part of the job to me, which is why I keep a caseload. I love helping people. That’s why I became a social worker – to work with families and not just to write reports and go to meetings,” she says.
Because the FVAOP is statewide, Sharon and her team do a lot of traveling. In addition to Newport and Bristol Counties, she has clients throughout southern Rhode Island. Each day is different, with duties ranging from meeting with clients at their homes or in shelters to do assessments and then finding the best ways for them to receive services.
“This job is meaningful because I know the resources that are available and can provide a lot of my experience and knowledge to my clients,” says Sharon. “This type of program is looking at the case and working on the whole family issue; seeing how this person can move on from domestic violence through financial assistance, therapy, child care, child IEPs, and other services. It’s so rewarding to know you’ve helped someone to get what they asked for, and maybe a lot ore.”
Sharon, a Bristol, R.I. native, acknowledges that working with domestic violence victims and survivors is sometimes very difficult. “Some of the things you see, hear and feel are horrific and that takes a long time to get used to. I always advise the young people who I hire to try and leave the job at work. Self care is important.”
As to her own ways of avoiding burn-out, Sharon says, , “I run, I do yoga, I work out at a gym almost every day. I have a chocolate lab named Lola so I hike and run with her at Mount Hope Farm, Warren Beach and Burr’s Hill Park.”
A graduate of Boston College, Sharon obtained a master’s degree from Anna Maria College. Divorced for 13 years and a survivor herself, she said she raised her son on her own and is proud to now see him in his second year of college, studying education. “I have a wonderful, supportive family, she said.
Women’s Resource Center Celebrates 40 Years
When relationships turn abusive and violent, it is important to have outside support. That’s where the Women’s Resource Center comes in. Since 1977, WRC has been a listening ear, a helping hand and in some cases, a lifeline to individuals experiencing domestic violence.
The overarching goal of WRC is that through education and intervention, there will one day be a world without domestic violence. But, as everyone knows, it’s complicated. Therefore, WRC continues its mission of domestic violence prevention and providing support for victims and their families.
Back in the 1970’s the issue of domestic violence was barely on the public’s radar. When a domestic incident occurred, it was often kept quiet by those involved, out of fear and shame. Police had virtually no training to deal with the problem. When called, they would intervene, but arrests were rare. Restraining orders could be obtained, but the process was intimidating. Victims often felt as if there was no one to turn to and no place they could go for help.
In Rhode Island, that changed in 1977 with the founding of the Women’s Resource Center serving Newport and Bristol Counties. The early WRC began with a handful of committed women staffing phones in a small office in Newport to answer questions about a number of social justice issues. Within a few years, however, it became clear that domestic violence was a key issue that needed to be addressed and that domestic violence victims required specialized help. The WRC decided this would be its main focus.
Christina W. McIntyre, one of WRC’s founders, recalled the development of the WRC’s programs. “We started to see that, as a society, things were changing and people were starting to understand domestic violence more and to talk about it. Victims were more open about coming forward to seek help for themselves and their children, so our programs and services were designed from there.” She noted that this included researching and pursuing available resources at the state and federal level as well as engaging in fundraising.
In the past four decades, there have also been important changes in the legal system pertaining to domestic violence. Until the late 20th century, there were few laws pertaining to the protection of domestic violence victims and punishment of perpetrators. The WRC is fully involved in working with the local and state police and the court system to help protect victims and seek punishment and rehabilitation for perpetrators.
Ms. McIntyre said she is proud to see that the WRC is not only still in existence 40 years later but that it has grown and expanded its reach in both providing services to victims and in pursuing prevention efforts through education. The main WRC facility is still located in downtown Newport, at 114 Touro Street, and there is a second office in Warren, at 624 Main Street.
Lori N. DiPersio, WRC’s executive director, notes the societal shift in the past 40 years to acknowledge the existence of domestic violence across all ages, ethnic backgrounds, sexual orientations and income levels. “While I wish, of course, that domestic violence could be eradicated completely, I am grateful that victims today live in a society where the topic is discussed openly and they can feel less shame and fear about turning to a place like WRC for assistance.”
Today, the WRC provides assistance for victims in a number of ways:
- Helping them obtain temporary restraining orders against perpetrators
- Explaining their rights
- Accompanying them to court
- Helping them find shelter for themselves and their children
- Helping children who witness abuse with counseling
- Training police to deal with the problem
One of the biggest changes in the last few decades is that the WRC provides emergency shelter and temporary housing to domestic violence victims. Finding shelter for victims is an especially important role. While it is best for victims to escape their abusers, it is also the most dangerous point in the relationship. Abusers often go to extremes to prevent victims from leaving and try to track them down after they do leave, sometimes harming them, or even killing them..
With the increasing understanding of domestic violence, WRC began reaching out to entire families, all age groups and members of both genders. It also tries to educate friends and neighbors about the cycle of abuse and how to recognize symptoms. In addition, the growth in knowledge on the part of the public itself is a help for victims as they are better understood and less likely to feel ashamed.
”While women are far more likely to be victims of domestic violence than men, it’s important to remember that there are male victims, child victims and elderly victims,” adds Ms. DiPersio. “Today, the WRC has the ability to assist individuals in a variety of different ways and to tailor services to fit the specific needs.”
Ms. DiPersio also notes that among the positive changes in the past 40 years is an increase in the number of agencies statewide and nationally that provide domestic violence assistance and prevention services. The WRC embraces and supports many national efforts, and is an active member of the Rhode Island Coalition Against Domesic Violence as well as its statewide “sister” agencies.
Ms. DiPersio credits the WRC staff members, both current and former, for their efforts in aiding victims and doing prevention work. “This is hard work because it involves assisting people who are in difficult and often upsetting situations. It can be stressful and emotionally draining, so I truly thank everyone who has been involved with WRC in the past as well as those who helping us move forward.”
The WRC has also expanded its mission in the face of more recent technological and societal changes. For example, with the advent of cell phones and social media, bullying has become a greater problem. The WRC staff members visit local middle and high schools and lead discussions about online bullying, sexting and other negative social behaviors that also constitute abuse.
“The mission of WRC has always been the prevention of domestic violence and to provide support services to individuals in Newport and Bristol Counties. “I’m proud of what WRC has been able to accomplish in the last 40 years and look forward to its continued evolvement in helping victims as well as cutting down on domestic violence incidents,” said Ms. DiPersio.
Eight “Wild Women of Bristol County” Honored
Congratulations to the “Wild Women of Bristol County” who were recognized at a luncheon in their honor on June 22, 2017 at the Rhode Island Country Club for being inspiring role models. These ladies are active and involved in business, civic and community organizations throughout Rhode Island and have a powerful influence on those around them.
Emcee for the event was Joan Johnson-Freese. Sara Cabral as keynote speaker told an emotional and powerful story of her domestic violence experience before a rapt audience.
Pictured from left to right: Maria Ursini, executive director, Bristol Senior Center, Bristol and Coordinator, Bristol Substance Abuse Coalition; Suzanne Harrington-Steppen, Associate Director of Pro Bono Programs, Roger Williams University School of Law; Cecily Ziegler, staff attorney, Immigrant Victims’ Rights Project, Dorcas International Institute of Rhode Island; Maureen Taylor, historic photo researcher and family historian; Barbara Stamp, realtor, Residential Properties, Ltd.; Diane Medeiros, vice chairwoman, Rhode Island State Board of Elections; Audrey Field, (Retired) former director of Volunteer Services, including Senior Corps, Foster Grandparents and Americorps at East Bay Community Action Program; Victoria Almeida, Esq., shareholder at Adler Pollock & Sheehan
Men Who Make A Difference 2017 (Purchase Tickets )
The Men Who Make A Difference (MWMAD) Gala celebrates men who work within our Rhode Island community to make positive and lasting change. This event promises to be an inspiring and memorable evening featuring cocktails, hors d’oeuvres, dinner, dancing and a silent auction as we learn about our Honorees.
This year we will be hosting the event at Gurney’s Newport Resort & Marina (Formerly the Newport Hyatt). The evening kicks off at 6PM and we will have live and silent auctions along with a wonderful sit down dinner. Honorees will be presented with awards and a nice short video about their accomplishments.
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